There are many girls who wish they had a sister. Specially so, when they see two sisters bond.
Sisters – room-mates, childhood companions, friends and confidantes. Many times they teach, advise counsel and even take care of each other. Fights and arguments is an integral part of this relationship. Sister is one person who is with you right from the time, either of you has entered this world.
This relationship is very important in anybody’s life as we spend nearly 1/3 of our life with them.
We grow together, are brought up by same parents, in the same environment, obviously our value systems are similar.
Yes, we may look different, behave differently, our personalities may be strikingly different, but inherently, we are the same.
Sisters share a unique relationship. They know each other inside out. Probably this is the only relationship which stays for the longest period of time in our lives. Parents cannot be with us for life, We meet our partners, spouses and friends only after a particular time, may be school, college, work.
The relationship which sisters share in their growing up years does have a great influence in their lives.
Many times girls see their mother’s relationship with her sisters, It does leave a mark on them and also helps them to understand the warmth and intensity in the relationship between sisters.
Parents interaction with their daughters does influence a lot in developing the sister bond.
Invariably, it’s seen that sisters always have a complaint that parents are playing the favouritism game. The other sister is given more attention or is more closer to parents, always has her say, are the most common complaints girls have. These things are totally acceptable and absolutely normal. This is seen in all households where there are two or more sisters. One sister may be smarter, the other might be taller, one may be good in acedamics the other may be good at sports, one may be fair the other may be dark, sisters are different in their appearances and behaviour. Many times it’s this difference which is a reason for their feeling that they are loved less than the other sisters. Girls do have a rivalry but, as they mature, they overcome these things as the basis of their relationship is love.
It’s seen that sisters fight on numerous things as small as who gets to sit on which chair while having dinner, who can use the wash room first, who gets to hold the remote while watching a television opera. They hate sharing their room and are happy to know that the other sister is shifting to live on campus or leaving the room as she is getting married. But, once they are apart they long to meet each other and spend time together. In short, they miss each other.
Mostly its seen that sisters share a great relationship in comparison to brothers. May be because women do not hesitate to share their feelings, boys normally do not express themselves.
But in spite of this we do see many sisters who have estranged from each other. They avoid each other, there’s so much of unhappiness that it’s saddening. Parents are the one’s who are hurt the most in this as their only wish is to see their children sharing a good relationship.
Lately I came across such sisters who are avoiding each other completely. There is so much of hurt and ill feeling that an outsider can not intervene and mend their relationship.
They are themselves matured individuals, they need to make an effort and know as to what has gone wrong?
After talking to a few of them, I realised that many times the relation gets sour when property issue comes in. This is seen very often in most of the families when they have to share the deceased parents wealth.
Some women are Jealous of their own sister, they tend to compare on everything with them. This obviously will lead to unhappiness and strained relationship.
Also the most important thing we need to know is expectations can ruin our relationship with our sisters. As Individuals we expect certain things from our siblings- many may be as small as wishing on a particular occasion or inviting them over for something. If certain expectations are not fulfilled we get disappointed which further spoils our relationship with them.
I may be repeating this over and over again – communicate
Untill and unless you express your views how will the other person know?
Many times it may be just that they are too busy with something and are not able to call you. May be they are involved in their own problems? Give them a benefit of doubt.
I would say please do not be judgemental, if we start judging people for the way they behave, we will always find flaws. May be they behave in a particular way due to certain reasons. Again I would say talk, communicate.
Lastly, We should not forget that sisters will always be sisters, the bond cannot be broken so easily.
So, go ahead, Keep your ego aside and make the first move. Try to sort out your differences. Many times we realise things much later in life, and by the time we realise, it’s too late.
I agree that sisters can be strikingly different, with different exposure and experiences can behave differently, may no longer enjoy each other’s company but can atleast be cordial with each other.
At last you are sisters .